Please consider the following 3 descriptions and choose the one that you feel best describes you.

Description #3

Are you sensitive to the emotions of others? Do you avoid emotional intensity and strive to maintain emotional harmony?

Do you secretly wish to be attractive, physically strong/skilled, and/or charismatic? Do you often find that you are “unrealistic” and wish you were more realistic (or strive to prove that you are realistic by achieving your unrealistic goals?

“You are very aware of the emotions of others. You find it easy/natural to ‘get inside someone’s head’ and ‘see things from their perspective.’ You often feel very ‘other’ and ‘out of place,’ like you are very different from everyone else in a very pronounced way. You are very goal driven and criticize yourself harshly. You are very sensitive to being ignored or excluded. When you feel ‘troubled,’ you often try to ‘find the pattern’ and ‘hidden meaning’ behind things. You enjoy nature and ‘opportunities to be clever.”

Do you feel this is accurate for you?

Description #5

Do you feel a strong drive to “be true to yourself?” Do you often find yourself “so busy” that one day you pause and go “this isn’t who I am?” Do you find yourself drawn to “sets of values” (like religion) as a way of ensuring that you are “moral?”

Do you feel an intense desire to go out and experience “everything?” Do you struggle with routines, schedules, and traditions? Do you long to have “a place/space that is yours” but struggle to do what is necessary to achieve/maintain such a space?

“You value what is new and often look to the future. You warn others of possible dangers, and secretly expect some form of gratitude or reciprocity in return. You long to be admired and often seek out the company of people who are skilled, powerful, and/or attractive. You are very good at ‘making a case’ and convincing others to agree with you. You feel that rules are ‘open to interpretation’ and find a ‘lack of flexibility’ challenging. You do not like feeling ‘obligated’ to others. When stressed, you often seek out ‘distractions’ as a coping mechanism.”

Do you feel this is accurate for you?

Description #15

Do you feel it is your responsibility to “guide” and “correct others” when they say or do something “incorrect?” Do you support others by “helping them to be more organized/efficient?”

Do you secretly wish to be creative but struggle with “too many different ideas?” Do you find “new things” stressful and “cling to the familiar?”

“You have a strong memory. You value knowledge, tradition, duty, and safety. You rely on experts to guide you, but are very careful about who you consider to be an expert. You sometimes struggle with social conventions, but believe it is your duty to conform to them. You find change stressful, and have a tendency to cling to the familiar. In the face of too much emotion or social interaction, you focus on logical details, often seeking solitude to think.”

Do you feel this is accurate for you?

If none of these feel like a good fit for you, then perhaps you’d like to reconsider some of your earlier choices.